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While I can’t say that every IFB church is run in a spiritually abusive manner since that would be an impossible claim to knowledge, I can easily infer, based on my experience with multiple IFB churches and based on others who I’ve talk to or shared their stories on this site, that most are.
Since leaving the IFB in 1999, I have encountered many people who have come from not only IFB churches, but also other Christian churches with similar experiences of spiritual abuse.
So for example a child who was abused by his father who used a belt to beat him, will forever equate his father and that belt with abuse. When a particular church or organization abuse a person and they use the Bible to perform the abuse, you can deduce what will happen.
The one thing that a person needs to heal from an abusive situation, the Bible, is the very thing that person can’t turn to because it was the object of the abuse.
Much of what you will read here comes directly from my personal experience.
It is not the intention of this site to hurt or defame anyone.Am I saying that the church and the people in the church should be perfect? Pastors and church goers are human, however, the church should be a place where humanness is met with the Grace of God not the judgmental legalism of the Pharisees.A good friend of mine told me once that people who were abused have a tendency to shy away from the abuser and the object used to abuse.I will do my best to not single out a particular church.It is the sole intention of this site to bring into the light the hurtful and dangerous practices of the IFB.